Wednesday, March 19, 2025

My nana, Uttam Chand Madan

To the world, you might have been the best horologist—bringing any watch to life—but to me, you will always be Chote Papaji, my Nana. It filled me with immense pride when you came to pick me up from school, and I would excitedly tell my teachers that you were my Nana. As a child, your visits meant dal samosas from Panchkuian Road and a trip to Nani’s house. And, of course, who doesn’t love being spoiled at Nani’s house?

You loved to walk and spoke so little, but your face always lit up when you shared stories of Partition. You always had something to give—whether it was toys, pichkaris on Holi, or crackers on Diwali. You continued the tradition even for my kids. Whether it was a scary mask or a car with lights, your gifts were always unique.

You could do yoga asanas that even the young struggled with. There was never a time I met you when you didn’t notice my watch. You were overjoyed whenever we surprised you at the Connaught Place repair showroom, and even more so when we brought you watches to fix. A visit to your showroom as a child inevitably meant a new toy from Ram Chander & Sons.

You were one of the rare few from your generation who were truly forward-thinking. You raised a daughter who was no damsel in distress—she drove around independently and had the freedom that most girls in those times only dreamed of. She was fearless enough to tell you that she had bunked school to watch a movie, and instead of reprimanding her, you offered to buy tickets for her and her friends the next time. You prepared your children well to withstand the storms and turbulences of life, and I will always be indebted to you because my mother raised me the same way.

You worked long past the age when most prefer to relax. While others became grumpy and fussy, you played with your great-grandchildren as if you were their age, and even had a sweet tooth like small children. In the last few years, you showed immense resilience and strength. They say home is where the heart is, and it seemed as though you left your heart in the place where you spent most of your life—but you never once expressed it. You built a strong family and were truly blessed with a daughter-in-law (my mammi) who loved and cared for you deeply and dedicatedly, more than anyone else.

I wish I had told you all this while you were still here, but I know you are listening. People say we should celebrate your life because you lived it well. But for me, there is no other Chote papaji, I will always feel your presence and each time I remember you, I will say, Hari Om.

Your first grandchild,
Shilpa

 

 

Sunday, January 19, 2025

Letter to Shreya on your 9th Birthday

 


Dearest Shreya,

Happy Birthday, my PDA queen.

The more I hated it all my life, the more it bursts from you. You kiss me and pull my cheeks just about anywhere. Your intensity increases as I flush with embarrassment. However, I am told to enjoy it while it lasts, and that is precisely what I intend to do.

You are a sharp, intelligent, and witty little missy who still likes to control your twin. You are a quick learner and a delight for anyone teaching you. The annoying brother in your life is constantly doing everything he can to pester you. Why do I have to endure the most of your nonstop howling and pursuance to reprimand your brother? And when I do, you become his biggest supporter and side with him, transforming me into the monster mom. It's a typical brother-sister thing.

Every time you embrace me, run your tiny fingers on my face, and give me a peck, it is a moment of your expression of love, but for me, it is about loving myself for being so lovable to you. I cannot imagine I ever existed without you and Shivansh when you came into being just nine years ago. I draw my identity from you and everything that stands for love.   

You are the quieter one but one with the most heartwarming laughter. You are rushing to your teens with small external changes you embrace confidently. I wish you confidently shape your demeanor and build a strong character like the women in our family. My love, enjoy the last year of being single-digit and the innocence that surrounds it, for soon it will be hijacked by anxiety (like we saw in the movie Inside Out -2). Till then, we will hug like there's no tomorrow.

From a mom who will stay with you till eternity :)

 

 

 

 

 


Letter to Shivansh on your 9th Birthday


Dearest Shivansh,

Happy Birthday, my gulla.

My elder one – even if you are older by a minute, you definitely are hastening towards every milestone, even your teens. You fired me as a parent and thankfully rehired me this year, and you only respond to the 999th time of calling you. And that, too, you react with a lazy ‘What?’ from your room as though I’ve disrupted your creative nirvana.

You draw all the time—in class, amid the teacher teaching you, and whenever you can. While I am still trying to get my head around all the monsters, demons, and skeletons, you are creating gory stories that are worrisome. Perhaps it is the generation gap divide staring back at me and asking me to gear up. I’d love to shape up your passion and turn it into something you will truly cherish.

You are an entertainer, and you love to make us laugh. You are a charmer with the funniest retorts and just the response that cracks up people around you. You have even learned to talk with your eyes and manipulate your expressions to get ‘devices.’ You mastered the art of pestering, playing pranks, and expressing love exclusively for your dad.    

 Your laugh is an antidote to our stress and worries, and I am proud that I get to be the funny mom who adds some laughter and hopefully makes your childhood happy. My heart melts a thousand times when you start narrating a story in an animated and spirited way. As much as I love seeing this child turning into an attractive little man, I hate that our shoe and hand sizes are the same, and perhaps by next year, you’ll outgrow me.

I know you hate it, but you will always be my red-cheeked gulla, whom I will squish and cuddle forever.


Determined to love and cuddle you forever, your mom